Q: I read everything you give me, I try to stay true, I work on my goal sheet, and I try to stick to the meal plan. Yet I always seem to find myself “failing.” The cycle begins where I work out and fall to simple carbs. I’m tired of this. It’s harder that I live with girls who only eat junk food, and who want to have girly night every night. Naturally I’m healthy, but its sooo hard when temptation is basically at my figure tips…ahhhhh!
I try to keep my goal in mind, and the prizes at the end help too..this is soo hard. How did you get in the mind set Ariane? How did you make that change in your life?
A: The fact that you had ice cream isn’t a failure, it’s just a sign that old habits are powerful and that it takes conscious effort to keep practicing the new behaviors.You’re trying to make healthy changes and it does take some time for these new behaviors to replace the old behaviors that you’ve had for many years. Our behaviors don’t change overnight because they are not yet ingrained in our brains. Know that it is totally normal that old habits kick back in just when you think you’ve got it figured out.
Soon these temptations will no longer feel like temptations because you will associate a great sense of energy and wellbeing with eating nutritious foods. Right now you remember how good and content you feel after eating ice cream or chips, but you don’t realize quite yet how they make you feel an hour or two afterwards. You may not yet realize how within an hour of eating lots of sugar your energy drops, your cravings for sugar skyrocket, and how your digestion is affected.
After having cut them out for a while you will notice what really happens. Do your best to pass on the processed foods for a week and your body will become very sensitive to these foods. Once you have your cheat meals again, your body will let you know how it feels about sugar and starchy carbs. It’s not uncommon that clients tell me how bloated and miserable they feel, how their digestion is out of whack for 2-3 days and how they notice a massive drop in their energy after having their cheat meal. Once you make a negative assocation with these foods it will be a lot easier to say no to them. After all, who wants to feel miserable afer eating? Who wants to see a 2 lb increase of bloat on the scale the day after eating chips just because you’re retaining water?
When it comes to fat loss it’s important to focus on how you want to feel long term. Basically, you have two options:
a) Eat anything you want and put up with the consequences of weight gain, low energy, health risks, and you feeling unhappy about your body (sounds appealing, doesn’t it?)
b) Make healthy choices (even if they’re not giving you the instant satisfaction of chocolate), knowing that your body will thank you for it with a slim and strong physique, great energy, and health and you feeling great in your skin.
Ask yourself: Is giving up ice cream (or whatever else is your tempation) really such a sacrifice, considering how great you can feel by making a few changes in your diet?
You’re asking how I made the switch? I started my first diet in 8th grade and it didn’t stop there. I tried low-fat,diets, fasting for weeks, soup diets, juice diets, Slim Fast shakes, the master cleanse – you name it. I’ve tried it. The weight would come off for a while and then I’d gain it back, plus a couple more pounds. As the years went by I got more and more frustrated and finally realized that I was going for the quick fix. I wanted to lose the weight fast and keep it off but it wasn’t working. I had no clue about how to eat properly and was quite concerned about getting to a certain number on the scale. I realized that if I had stuck with a healthy diet long-term I could have already had my ideal body and saved myself years of dieting and frustration and deprivation.
To keep it short, I started learning about how the body works, how fat is burnt, how food affects the metabolism, etc. Alongside, I started working out and lifting weights and when I combined a great diet with weights I noticed a dramatic shift in my body, my energy, even how I felt in my skin. The last bit of change came when i finally addressed the areas in my life that made me overeat and comfort myself with food. I focused on working on my job, my relationships, my attitude towards life and started living for myself. That’s when it all came together and things clicked. At that point I just didn’t want to go back to my old miserable self and even the best tasting cookie (which I will have once in a while) doesn’t make me feel as good as it feels to be fit and strong.
You’ll find that every day things get a bit easier and fall into place for you. Just be patient and know that you are changing. It just takes a little while for the new you to feel like second nature.